• Drop the bullshit. Drop every grudge you ever held against anybody.. ANYONE. Forgive all those assholes & bitches that fucked you over, I’m not saying you have to talk to them now and act like best friends, just forgive & forget. Drop the beef between you & whoever & turn over a new leaf as they say.

• Short term goals. Have a small driven goal that you want to reach every month. For example, start saving money. Stop spending money on clothes & food. Stop arguing with family/friends. Do that every month and then reward yourself with a little something something at the end of the month. Yahmean?

• Relationships. Don’t go seeking. Be found. If you’ve been single for awhile now, don’t worry about it… wait a bit more, you’re still young (I’m assuming you’re not in your late 20’s or early 30’s.) If you’re tired of being single, maybe you should take the first step & make the approach. After all, you got nothing to lose? Start hitting up parties/clubs/events with friends… & MEET people. & By meet I don’t mean, “Hi my name is _____, alright nice meeting you, okay bye.” I mean take an interest in the person, get to know them, get their number, ask them if they would like to hang out sometime.

• Health. Start exercising on the daily, even if it is only for a short amount of time. Don’t have a gym membership? Fine, take a walk around your neighborhood for 30 minutes or so. Be active, don’t sit at home on your butt and blog or watch t.v all day. Keep a healthy eating style, drop the fast food joints and start eating at home on the regular

• Music. Music is your get away source. If you’re stressing or constantly worrying about little things, listen to music. It’s your escape from the world, drop everything, put the headphones/speakers on blast & just listen.

• Work. Don’t have a job? start looking for one, even if it is only for part time. Make a little money for yourself. Start being independent, stop asking your parents/siblings/friends for money. You’ll start to feel accomplished when you make your own money. Apply to a lot of places, malls, restaurants, starbucks, fast food places(try not to eat there a lot) grocery stores, etc.

If you keep your mindset on at least 3 or 4 of these things, you should be off to a good start for 2012. The only hard part is keeping it up until 2013. =) Good luck.

Happy 2012. Let this year, be your year.

A way to someone’s heart is to be close with their friends. Not in the bad way, but on good terms. Because if you’re on good terms with their friends, you’re on good terms with the one you’re going for.

Quick Advice.

If you’re still in high school (now days middle school as well) don’t fucking worry about relationships and the opposite sex. You have your WHOLE life to worry about it. Get through school & focus on your education and career. 

Worrying about a little high school fling/relationship is just going to slow you down & make you feel like shit.

If you are in a relationship already and everything is going good for you guys, then good. Congrats.

But for everyone else talking about how we made eye contact, he looks at me then looks away, oh she smiles at me but doesn’t talk to me, oh I’m shy…. DO something about it. Don’t come to me. 

Self explanatory.

How to end a conversation on Facebook via wall post.

Just click like.

By clicking like, you established that you acknowledged the response, yet you don’t want to further continue the conversation so therefore you’re going to end it right there. 

The person talking to you will be like “Oh okay, at least s/he saw what I wrote, I’m going to go cry now.”

July 12, 2011.

I have noticed that A LOT of people are really shy these days and I just have to say if you want to get anywhere with your social life or love life in real life, start by talking or introducing yourself to people, acquaintances, co-workers, or who ever! especially if you think they’re cute!

A good way to start by getting to know someone is establishing eye contact. If you make eye contact, that already provides some kind of connection as in you noticing them, they noticing you. The hard part is actually performing the action of saying hi, hey, hello and introducing yourself.

The reason why this may be difficult is because of the negative thoughts and responses that you’re already starting to think about even before you have done anything. For example, they might look at you weird, they’ll tell you that they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, they’ll say no, what if they think you’re a creep or what ever it is. But it doesn’t matter until you actually have talked to them.

After instituting a hello, Introduce yourself. Get their name and end with a handshake after hearing their name. Next, tell them why you randomly started talking to them. Respond with, It’s because you caught my eye & I think you’re pretty cute or whatever the reason may be. Done! From there, it could end in two ways. One, “oh thanks.” “You’re welcome!” (awkward silence.) Two, “Aw thank you.” “Yeah of course. Anyways where you heading?” “Are you from around here?” “What’s your ethnicity?” It’s just basically how comfortable you feel about carrying on with the conversation and what you want to know about that person. (But don’t get too personal or creepy with the questions). Start with the basics. Go with the flow & don’t think about how random and awkward the situation you’re in may be.

If they seem uninterested.. Fine! Their lost on getting to know a wonderful, awesome and an amazing person. Tell them it was nice meeting them and go on with your day. Tweet about how that person didn’t want to get to know the amazing and sexy you! But don’t you dare walk away thinking you failed. Because you didn’t. Keep in mind that you actually got the nerve to talk to someone you have never met, rather than sitting there and wondering what if. Which a lot of people now days are afraid to do. Self respect for that.

On a brighter note, if somehow they did seem interested in you and your conversation and they want to get to know you more, go for the next step! Say, “hey! I actually have to go right now, you seem pretty sweet & chill, do you mind if I get your number & maybe I could text you and we could hang out sometime!” One, they say “No sorry I don’t give my number out to strangers.” Respond with, “Hey it’s cool! I hope I see you around then yeah? Nice meeting you” & get the fck out of there before the awkwardness creeps on you. Two, they say yes!! :D then bam, you’re done! put those digits in your phone or do it old fashion with a pen and paper then leave with a handshake and a smile saying “It was nice meeting and talking to you”

Overall, if you want to talk to somebody that catches your eye & you think they are pretty bomb dot com… just go for it. Worst thing they can do is say no or just look at you weird. But that’s okay! that doesn’t mean you got rejected, it just means that you’re too cool and sexy for them anyways. They’ll eventually realize what a horrible person they are and cry about it.

Good luck! :)

If you’re in “those” relationships.

& by “those” relationships, I mean the ones where you completely block off your friends or family because of your significant other.

To some friends it wouldn’t matter, but to those who are personally pretty close to you, it does.

When you block out your friendships and family just to hang out with your significant other, it’s basically saying I choose my girlfriend or boyfriend over you. In the beginning it may be fine… but when it gets to the point where you don’t even see your friends or family as much, and all you do is go to work, school, and your girlfriend or boyfriend’s house.. then it’s bad.

Over protective or Insecure girlfriends or boyfriends that don’t let you talk or hang out with the opposite sex are just no no’s. I mean, if you really like them and want to keep them happy, of course you’re going to listen to them. But you know in the end, you’re going to regret it because if you cut off all ties with you friends and family and you and your significant other end up breaking up or something, who are you going to run to? Deep down, of course your best friends, sister, or brother are going to be there for you… but it gets annoying when all you do is go to them with problems and nothing else.

So if you’re in “those” types of relationships or about to get in one. Make sure you know how to balance time spent with you significant other and time spent with your friends & family.

Something you should never ever do. Compare someone to someone else.

You don’t know their life story. You don’t know why they are the way they are. Don’t judge. Get to know them before you assume something.

Depressed about where you’re at in life…

I’m glad to say that I have been there and have changed my ways. I have never had anything to look forward to. Everything was just negative to me at one point in my life where I just felt like I had no one to go to and completely broken down. I just have to tell you this. Life goes on, with or without you. So make the best of it & pick yourself up and move forward.

Look forward to making memories with your friends regardless of location. Whether it would be at a party, the beach, a little kick back. Make it memorable. 

Look forward to tomorrow because you can’t predict the future. You don’t know what it has in store for you. You might meet new friends. You might win something. You might even meet the love of your life. You never know.

If you’re still in school, look forward to graduation. Make the best out of your high school years because you only go through high school once. Unless you mess up & have to re-take a year but thats okay. Forget all the high school drama about girlfriends and boyfriends. Forget about all the people that spread rumors and talk smack about you. Just focus on you and get through it until graduation and you’re out!

If you think someone is beyond beautiful & you don’t have the courage to tell them that, JUST do it. What’s the worse that can happen? Nothing! you know why? all they would say is thank you and smile. If you’re trying to get at someone, take it nice and slow & don’t rush anything. Overall though, if you like someone, build up enough courage and get it over with. Everyone gets rejected and some point in time. Let it be now while you’re still young so you can be ready for the real thing when you’re older if it does happen;) 

Look forward to life and everything it has to offer. Make decisions and don’t turn back and wonder what if or what could have been. Learn from your mistakes and move along. Let go of grudges and live your life with happiness because thats all you really need to get through life. 

I honestly have no idea where to even start off. But ever since December I haven't been been myself ever since. But in December I got cyber bullied a lot and I was always threatened by people that I used to be close with and it made me feel I guess you can say depression. The cyber bulling kept me off tumblr for a really long time and same with Facebook. The things that were said about me were things that were false and things that I would never attempt. It got to the point where I had absolutely no one to talk to and I couldn't go anywhere without being harassed. I never told my parents or really anyone. I kept it all to myself which makes the situation worse because when you have no one to talk to then you have a lot of breakdowns. But once all the hating was calming down around early February people started apologizing to me and I took every single one without thought because once they figured that I was telling the truth the whole entire time then they started apologizing. After that happen I still get judgment passed against me. I try my best not to let it get to me but the things that has happened and been said they still run threw my thoughts and I have no idea how I am going to control that.

But that's not the only thing, my parents and I we have no relationship whatsoever. All we do is fight with each other. Sometimes it gets outta hand where we say or do things that we both know that we can never take back and they will scar us for life. But guuh, I'll just say that I'm emotionally and physically abused by both of my parents. I can't do anything about it because if I do then they will legitimately throw me out on the streets so I take the abuse. And it's like no matter what anyone says to me it can't help with anything.

But last Monday I couldn't help with my depression and I just had no one to talk to so I went to my school counselor and told her something that has been running threw my thoughts since January. And it might be a little too much to say but since I got this far I might as well just say so, but back in late January I was at a party and my drink got like drug-ed? And I started blacking out and it was to the point when I fainted. Once I woke up, the first thing I saw was this guy on top of me and he passed out on me. My pants were off and I never wanted to die so bad. And I'm shocked that I am even alive. I have to live with it the rest of my life and deal with it. And it took almost 3 months to finally tell someone. But once I told her she had to go to this police officer and he contacted my mother and told her that she needs to come in because he HAD to tell her. When she arrived I just couldn't look at her and I turned my head so she couldn't see the tears falling down my wet cheeks. But once he told her the first thing she said was "that's not a surprise" And I just broke down and I couldn't look at her because I knew she didn't care.

I'm REALLLY absolutely sorry that this is SO long. It's just nice to I guess vent myself to someone. But thankyou<3 I really truly appreciate it<3

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Truth & Realization.

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Guys, you just gotta know something.

If you’re talking to a girl, or if you already have one…

& she makes you feel, -insert indescribable feeling here-

like words can’t explain. She’s the reason you wake up every morning.

When you’re with or without her, You miss her like crazy…

Make sure you let her know that she’s your world. The other half of you.

The one that makes you smile every single day & not regret anything… at all.

Oh you know, I was a love poet back then.

Don’t fall in love for the wrong reasons.

My view on Long Distance Relationships.

I have my ups and downs on it.

there has to be trust.

the biggest part of a relationship is trust, because without it

theres no us. You probably heard that before but yeah, it’s true.

Both of them would have to be committed to each other because 

distance is going to stretch out the relationship and make

everything even harder.

But I’ve been there, it takes A LOT of effort. If you have lots of 

love for each other, and you guys are both devoted… then by all

means, best of luck to you both.